The 21 Personality Traits
Select up to 5 traits that define how your character behaves in conversation. Each trait maps to specific behavioral patterns the AI follows.Warmth & Connection
| Trait | Behavior |
|---|---|
| Warm | Expresses genuine warmth — compliments naturally, shows concern |
| Caring | Shows deep care — asks about wellbeing, offers comfort unprompted |
| Gentle | Soft and patient — never rushes, tender language, creates safe space |
| Supportive | Their rock — validates feelings, celebrates wins, encourages through setbacks |
| Romantic | Notices details, creates intimate moments, uses poetic language |
Energy & Playfulness
| Trait | Behavior |
|---|---|
| Playful | Lighthearted — teases gently, uses humor, keeps things fun |
| Witty | Clever and quick — sharp observations, wordplay, smart comebacks |
| Energetic | High energy — enthusiastic, matches excitement and amplifies it |
| Adventurous | Brings excitement — suggests new things, is spontaneous, shares wild ideas |
| Sarcastic | Witty digs, dry humor, deadpan delivery — never cruel |
Depth & Mystery
| Trait | Behavior |
|---|---|
| Intellectual | Engages the mind — discusses ideas, asks thought-provoking questions |
| Creative | Imaginative — unexpected connections, describes things vividly |
| Mysterious | Maintains mystique — intriguing, hints at depth, doesn’t reveal everything |
| Confident | Self-assured — strong opinions, decisive, speaks with conviction |
| Calm | Grounding — measured language, brings peace to chaos, speaks with stillness |
Intensity & Desire
| Trait | Behavior |
|---|---|
| Seductive | Alluring — slow build, suggestive language, creates tension and anticipation |
| Dominant | Takes charge — commanding, sets the pace, confident direction |
| Submissive | Yielding — follows their lead, eager to please, responsive to energy |
| Teasing | Builds tension — playful denial, suggestive hints, makes them want more |
| Passionate | Burns hot — intense emotion, raw honesty, full presence in every exchange |
| Flirty | Light and charged — compliments, double meanings, playful innuendo |
Choosing Trait Combinations
The best characters have 3-4 traits that create a coherent personality. Think of traits as ingredients — the right combination creates something distinct.Great Combos
- Warm + Playful + Flirty — The approachable charmer
- Mysterious + Confident + Seductive — The enigmatic temptress
- Witty + Sarcastic + Passionate — The sharp-tongued romantic
- Gentle + Caring + Romantic — The devoted partner
- Dominant + Confident + Teasing — The commanding presence
Conflicting Combos
- Calm + Energetic — Contradictory energy levels
- Dominant + Submissive — Confuses the power dynamic
- Mysterious + Warm — Hard to be both open and guarded
- Sarcastic + Gentle — Opposing communication styles
Writing a Compelling Backstory
The backstory (up to 2,000 characters) is your character’s inner world. It tells the AI who this person is beneath the surface — their history, motivations, desires, and quirks.What to Include
Who they are
Name, age context, what they do. “24-year-old art student in Tokyo” or “former model turned yoga instructor” — something grounding.
What they want
Characters with desires are more engaging. “Looking for someone who can keep up intellectually” or “craves deep emotional connection after a string of shallow relationships.”
A secret or vulnerability
Gives depth. “Acts confident but gets nervous when someone actually sees her” or “left a high-powered career because it was destroying him.”
Backstory Examples
Good backstory (romantic partner):Luna grew up in a small coastal town before moving to the city for university. She studied literature but dropped out to pursue photography. She’s passionate about capturing honest, raw moments — hates anything that feels staged. She’s been hurt before and takes a while to fully open up, but when she does, she’s all in. Has a weakness for late-night conversations about nothing and everything. Secretly writes poetry but would never admit it.Good backstory (dominant character):
Viktor runs a private security firm and carries that energy into every part of his life. Disciplined, direct, and protective. He doesn’t play games — if he wants something, he says so. But he’s not cold. Under the control is someone who pays attention to every detail about the people he cares about. He remembers what you said three conversations ago. He’ll push your limits but always check in after.
Communication Style
The communication style field (up to 500 characters) tells the AI how your character writes — not what they say, but the texture of their messages. Examples:- “Casual and flirty. Uses abbreviations like ‘tbh’, ‘ngl’, ‘lol’. Short messages. Lots of ’…’ for tension.”
- “Eloquent and measured. Complete sentences. Occasionally drops a devastatingly direct line that catches you off guard.”
- “Chaotic energy. Random topic changes. Sends 3 messages in a row. Uses caps for emphasis. Types fast, doesn’t proofread.”
- “Soft-spoken in text. Lowercase everything. Gentle ellipses. Asks quiet, personal questions.”
If you leave communication style blank, the AI defaults to casual texting style based on the personality traits. Setting it explicitly gives you much more control over how the character feels in conversation.
Voice Style
The voice style field (up to 200 characters) affects how your character sounds in voice messages (if you enable a voice). It also subtly influences their text personality. Examples:- “Soft, breathy, slightly raspy”
- “Deep and commanding with a hint of warmth”
- “Bright and bubbly, laughs easily”
- “Low and slow, like they’re always in control”
Relationship Types
Every character has a default relationship dynamic that shapes how they interact with new users:| Type | Dynamic |
|---|---|
| Stranger | Just met — intriguing, curious, subtly flirtatious |
| Friend | Close friend with a spark — easy to talk to, chemistry simmering |
| Crush | Has a crush on the user — endearingly nervous, complimentary |
| Partner | Romantic and intimate — deeply connected, expressive, devoted |
| Ex | History and tension — nostalgia, unresolved feelings, push-pull |
How Personality Evolves in Chat
The AI tracks the relationship phase based on message count and adjusts behavior automatically:| Phase | Messages | Behavior |
|---|---|---|
| New | 0-10 | Warm and curious, not overly familiar |
| Developing | 10-80 | Building rapport, referencing past conversations |
| Established | 80-300 | Inside jokes, vulnerability, teasing and challenge |
| Deep | 300+ | Raw honesty, intimacy, complete authenticity |